Can this statistic be right? According to some 'experts' in the field as many as 80% of husbands fantasize about seeing or hearing about their wife having sex with another man.
Many of the fantasies contain some husbandly involvement - perhaps helping her dress for her night out with the girls, her date night, or rendevous. Most fantasies involve the wife telling the husband about her night out, the men with whom she flirted, from which she received phone numbers or with whom she danced. If she had a sexual encounter, the husband wants to hear the details. This excites him as it does her. In other fantasies, the husband may want greater involvement. Perhaps he wants to watch her as she moves about a bar catching men's eyes. He wants to watch her grind with her newfound interest on the dance floor before returning home to await her recollection of the night's events. Other men want even more involvement in the sexual encounters. They want to watch as their wife is kissed, touched and penetrated by another man. They may even want to join in - which goes beyond a simple hotwife and involves a MFM three way fantasy. The cuckhold husband may even go further in wanting to feel humiliated by his wife by having her tell him of his shortcomings and pathetic state.
Many women are initially startled or uncomfortable with this fantasy. With the knowledge that her husband wants her to flirt, make out or have sex with another man can come feelings of doubt about his love for her. She may feel an obligation to become a hotwife to satisfy his fantasy. While, intitially, it may not be her fantasy, many wives find out how excited they become once they experience the freedom and attention of men other than their husband. The experience often gives women a higher sense of self and the feelings of attractiveness may lead to further exploration.
Communication, trust and a marriage on a solid foundation are requisites if you are thinking about or discussing a hotwife relationship. It may take years of talking about it before any action is taken. It may take only a few conversations. You may find that it is simply a fantasy best left as that and not something you want to act on - at least now. Whatever your perspective, we'd love to hear your questions, your experiences or just your two cents on the subject.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
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I saw your most recent response on Not so normal's blog. I hope you post here about what happens with your wife too.
I think it would be very gratifying to have a husband who would want me to have experiences and share them with him. It wouldn't make me doubt his love... quite the opposite.
Like many of the other women here, I too have a man who is extremly turned on by the idea of me getting fucked by other men. But the idea of having someone else in me is not appealing at all. I have slept with many men, but have known all of them (for a few hours or so :)) I wonder if I will or if the women here, are able to seperate their emotions from the sex? Is it really just good (hopefully) sex and the emotions can get set aside? Do you feel guiltly the first few times? Does it feel like cheating? Or should I just shut up and just try it? :) Any advice for a prospective hotwife is greatly appreciated!
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