Saturday, November 11, 2006

MFM Threesomes

There is something incredibly sexy about two men pleasuring a woman at the same time.

The attraction of the above scenario is complex but, primarily, it must be predicated on trust. A couple must be selective in sharing this facet of their sexuality with a man: Does he honor the situation? Is he ultra discreet? Does he show respect and honor boundaries? Will he honor the relationship and not try to coerce or contact the wife outside the parameters which have been set?

In my experience, the concept of a MFM threesome has resonance with both the husband and wife. The husband may like to watch his wife, and desires to fulfill her fantasies. He may unknowingly possess qualities of bi-sexual curiousity. That doesn't mean he is gay. It might just mean he is a lover of beauty - whether male or female. The wife can explore in an environment where she can “let her hair down” so-to-speak. She can, for at least some time, drop the prim and proper, soccer mom facade and be the sexual being she has always wanted to be.

Let’s face it, society is not favorable to exploring outside of the “monogamous” definition of one man/one woman. Moreso, the concept of a FMF couple is more easily accepted in more open-minded circles. It's really too bad that the male dominant society cannot seem to get past the insecurity and jealousy of a MFM encounter. However, within the understanding of eitehr threesome all parties are free to enjoy the beauty and fun that sex affords. It shouldn't be all about what he wants or she wants - it should be about what THEY want.

Class and similar social levels are abvious keys to attraction. A professional couple may not be attracted to the style of a laborer. While this is a stereotypical response, let's face it. In a lot of cases, there are simply elements of education, dress, and taste that are not compatible. We understand these elements and prefer upscale, professionally-oriented men. Many couples might say they are “Not seeking Ken"...but we are...fitness, style, and attraction cannot be overstated. Initial and ongoing physical attraction is the first important step to finding the right person.

One facet I find particularly appealing is the concept of a pre-arranged “pick up”. She is free to flirt and there is much to be said for her control and the spontaneity of this encounter. Searching for that someone on the internet is fraught with frustration and perils. Still, with the right amount of privacy, together reviewing photos (and video) of potential partners is intriguing as well. It allows you to talk about and revisit the potential encounter with anonymity and fantasy building suspense.

Last and certainly not least, communication and a common view toward sex are keys to a lasting relationship. This should be about “friends” sharing. If you are part of couple, talk to your signficant other. You might be surprised at their response to your desire for this type of encounter. At the very least, it allows you to open yourself up and talk about a fantasy you harbor. While initially, the concept might make your mate wonder what your motivation is, you will find that discussing it thoroughly and talking about it numerous times will lead to greater understanding, trust and a better, closer relationship for both of you.

7 comments:

Man in progress said...

Great post.

I especially stopped to think on the similar social level issue coupled with the societal taboos.

This leads me to this question: What do you consider your best sources of that potential M for your threesome? Do you rely solely on lifestyle clubs/events? Are there particular websites you frequent? Do you feel out friends for the openness to those ideas?

RachAndrew said...

Thanks for visiting us! So far, we've dealt with the friends issues a couple times successfully and we've had the occassional spontaneous flirtation. If you've read our blog for long, you'll see we haven't jumped fully into this. Rather we are just having fun with it and seeing where it might lead. I don't think either of us are ready for the "let's go surf the web for a man" or lifestyle party just yet. We prefer to let the situation and our our own feelings at that moment decide for us.

NotSoNormal said...

I can agree with most of this, especially when planning it together. The similarities in social status was an interesting one, but the more I thought about this, that kind of ends up true by default, unless you have someone from a little higher status heading to some dive of a place and meeting someone spontaneously...then you just don't know what you're gonna get.

But with both on board, and both willing to sit and look and talk and have some fun with it, chances are you're going to come down to some one, or a couple of people that force you into the "well, are we actually gonna take the plunge" discussion. :) And that is always an intersting one. :D

Marital Bliss said...

We're so right there too, although we're currently looking via the web... we started looking for a couple but perhaps that was a mistake...Keep us posted and we'll do the same :)

Good Luck!

Tom Paine said...

Please drop by my blog and you'll see that I am working similar topics to yours, this time from the man's perspective.

MikeCindynJoe said...

We have been in the "style" for over 4 years, and we are convinced, that best sexual combination for all is 2 men and a woman. If more are involved, the men should always outnumber the women.

I've written about this on my blog if anyone is interested.

Zu Vic said...

Well imagine what machos mexicanos think about a husband that share his wife. But anyway here and in other latino countrys are many man with this fantasy.