Over the swing club hangover...finally

Ok, so Saturday was a big blur. It was a relatively nice day, we had so many things to do and I was feeling awful! You know that feeling when you swear you'll never drink that much again? Why is it that we always seem to forget that after a relatively short period of time. It's time I realize, I am not the 23 year old party girl anymore. I can't go out drinking all night and feel fine the next day like I once could. My body is betraying me in my thirties because I simply can not drink more than a glass or two of wine anymore! Perhaps its the relatively daily quiet life we lead and the lack of drinking more than once or twice a month that makes me that much more of a terrible recoverer from more drinks than I care to remember. Or perhaps it is simply that I am getting old...lol. Whatever it is, I am not going to do that again....yea, right! lol

Anyway, Sunday was a relatively quite day. We had a few things to get done around the house, went to a nice afternoon dinner as a family, did some shopping and had a quiet night of television, baths and reading at home. It was nice as I felt like I was still recovering from Friday night's binge. Hydrating all day, I couldn't seem to get caught up on my fluids and I kept fluctuating between being hot and being cold. I was thirsty, tired and hungry all day! By Monday, I was in much, much better condition.

The quiet of Sunday evening and the fact that I was mostly recovered allowed And and me to reflect a bit on Friday night. Before you think we are going a new direction, let me put that thought to rest. We are not becoming swingers, we have no interest in the group thing at this time and we are still utterly monogamous - most of the time. Our two nights inviting the same man into our sexual relations is something that still excites both of us beyond belief and I don't see us going outside of that realm anytime soon. Friday was quite a shock, highly erotic, interesting, enlightening, entertaining and something we might repeat at some point should the thought strike us both. But I don't think either of us saw it as a new "expansion" on our sexual appetite besides the mere curiousity, erotic voyearistic fun and something that was definitely different for us. It was fun and it was good in that way. But it is not a lifestyle change that I think either of us has in mind for ourselves.

See, in the end, we are still a married couple, living a fairly normal suburban lifestyle. I mean, we have two kids for god's sake. And has a professional job that keeps him extremely busy. I still like being a stay at home, volunteering-at-the-school, pick-the-girls-up-each-day, always-around mom. We can't spend countless hours going out to adult clubs partying like rock stars. We don't have that freedom, time and, quite frankly, that desire to change our everyday lives that much. What we do have is am extremely close one-on-one relationship, a good sex life and the occasional interest in spicing things up from time to time. That might include inviting another man as we've now come to realize, or perhaps...I say perhaps, another woman. That is still not somewhere I want to go but I also don't close doors completely when it comes to creatively augmenting our relationship. Could we have sex with another couple, could we go to adult club, could we have sex with a group of people, could we invite multiple men in? Sure. Will we? Probably not. It's just not something that we have the desire for at this point in our lives. In the end, we are still, primarily, a primary couple. We love each other. We are comfortable with where we are in life and we are comfortable in the invitation we've extended to Jon on two occasions. I am sure we will have more adventures, for sure. But will they be the swinging lifestyle ones? Uhm, I just don't see it right now.

Speaking of Jon, we did have an interesting text exchange last night. I told him about our night out and he was really fascinated. I think he didn't think I had that in me - to go to a club and watch while women gave men blow jobs, had incredibly sexy public sex with people other than their partner. He seemed shocked and was really interested in how I felt about all of it. I told him it was quite fun but not something that I was really into THAT much. He didn't seem disappointed in that at all. In fact, I dare think that he felt relieved that I didn't find it too intriguing. Almost like there was a feeling that he might be old hat and that I'd moved on to more adventurous activities. Almost a sense of relief that he was delivering to me in his words. Like, whew, I still have a chance to be with her again...lol.

Jon is a sexy guy, a kind gentleman, thoughtful and selfless. In fact, I've often wondered why he hasn't simply found himself a hottie and why he has any interest in having sex with a married woman while her non-jealous, relaxed hunk of a husband is right there. I mean, he knows there is no chance for anything more than this. That has been clear from the start and there has never been any confusion there. He also knows that he will not find himself alone with me. He knows that And will be there watching or participating. Why not just find a single woman that is interested in sex more often, can be seen with him at any time and is available? Something I've thought about from time to time.

I mean, why guys, besides the obvious no strings attached physical element would you have an interest in being on the outside looking in? Maybe it's just one of those differences between the sexes that I'll never understand and, really, I really don't care to question this too much. In fact, when I wonder this, I come to the conclusion that I, ultimately, don't really care why at all. It is great for And and me that we have someone that is willing to make himself available for such fun. It is the spice we have found and it is fulfilling to us. Presumably, it is fulfilling to Jon on some level too. I don't need to analyze it any deeper than that but still, I do wonder why...lol.