A letter from a husband

We recently received a letter that I thought I'd post, anonymously, to our blog before we head out to spring break. Occasionally, I think I write a pretty good answer so I wanted to post what I wrote this wannabee husband of a hotwife:

His email went something like this:

Hi Rach and And,

I discovered your wonderful blog last week. Before this, I didn't know the difference between a hotwife lover and cuckold. For 3 years, I've harbored the hotwife fantasy, not knowing why I loved it so much.

I've started reading your blog from the beginning, really getting aroused imagining that it was my wife who was sharing a dance (and some tongue) with some young 20-something.

Rach, I must say you have a super bod. If my wife had a chest like yours, I would have to hole away the kids with the grandparents for a few days while I made love to her chest repeatedly. As for And, I hope to be in your shoes by the end of the year - that is, to have a hotwife who will fulfill my fantasies.

Great job on the blog. I would want to add my comments but I can only view your blog (via cutting and pasting to my email) at work. My wife just doesn't understand why or how I can see her with other men. And of course, your blog is a bit risque for my workplace.

Here is my response (which I was quite proud of since I've had writer's block the past few weeks! LOL)

Thank you for your message and I do apologize for taking so long to get back to you. We do get quite a bit of mail!

I was, like your wife, not understanding of what And wanted. I always questioned whether he wasn't wanting to have his own affair or perhaps open our marriage to other couples, groups or some sort of "lifestyle". It is only through constant, consistent communication that I was able to more fully understand his fantasy. It was also only when we began to "experiment" with the idea that I came to fully grasp that it was nothing more than what it was.

Women, I am sure you understand, are built differently than you men. For men, it is easier to separate love and sex. For most women, it is not such an easy thing to do. Important to your overall development of this fantasy is making her feel loved, respected and wanted. I think it is important from the standpoint that we are afraid that if we do harbor fantasies of having another man, that somehow, you'll look differently at us. That you'll say, see, you fucked another man, so what's wrong with me fucking another woman.

And has shown no desire to do so and I think it is important that you understand what your real desire is. For him, I've come to realize, it is more about seeing me as a sexual creature, opening my thinking and allowing me to more fully appreciate sex. I think it is important for you to present these same things if you are ever going to be successful in your quest for a hotwife...lol

Please do read more entries from our blog and you'll understand. You'll find many where we questioned and even stepped back from things. It was a long process, years really, and I don't think it is something you want to rush. After all, the trip is sometimes just as fun as getting there! Just because we've experienced this, twice now, doesn't mean that our journey is over. In fact, I can attest that having gained confidence in myself and in And's commitment to our relationship, the fun has just begun!