Where Have We Been? Well, having fun with a Married Guy!

It's been almost a month since our last post and boy, do we feel guilty. Okay, not really...LOL.

The more we've experienced, the less we've found time to keep up with what has happened. It's funny really, after we've broken through some taboo barriers, we really feel free and not as inclined to necessarily write about them. It also seems we've been viewed less, commented on less frequently and spammed more! Perhaps now that we are officially a hotwife couple, people are less inclined to read our story. In any case, I know we'll get back on the blog train and address some of these issues, but here is a recap of what we've been up to in the past few weeks.

We've seen our married friend a couple times now and had some great, hot fun. It is interesting to me as I know Rach really struggled with the idea that he was married and his spouse didn't know. However, I think we both understand his situation a lot better now and as long as he is comfortable with what he is doing, we don't have any hang ups about it. In many ways, it is more comforting to know that he is married.

First, he isn't someone that is going to try to step in or on our relationship. It is simply sexual fun to him (and us) and there is no cause for alarm that he'll want more. I started to get the feeling that Jon, bless his heart, wanted a bit more of Rach's time than we wanted. He'd call her to see what was up. He'd make comments about getting together and seemed anxious for our next liason. It wasn't to the point of discomfort but did raise our guard just a bit.

Secondly, he is a bit older and, how do we say this politely without making him sound old, experienced? self-aware? wiser? (ooh that last one always sounds old doesn't it...LOL). He is only a few years older. Our age really, for all intents and purposes but he does "get it". The single guys we've been attracted to (no, I am straight. When I say attracted, I mean intrigued by their looks and profile) are typically a bit younger than us. Many times, we start to have conversations with them and the age difference, even if it is only a few years, starts to really become obvious. Men, me being one of them, are less mature for their age than women. Guys in their 20's, while having great bodies a lot of the time, just don't seem to "get it". They tend to come off as smart asses a lot more. Cocky, perhaps is a good word. Honestly, I think if we look for another single guy, he might be well into his 30's.

Third, I am beginning to wonder if married guys have a better understanding of pleasuring a woman. I mean, they get to intimately know a woman's body - being married to one....LOL...and seem to have an idea of how to please a woman. The single men we've talked to seem more into themselves and less into making Rach the center of attention. Not that we've gone down this path too far with most of them but it just seems that they are more self-centered and when that becomes obvious (and sometimes when it starts to show and we both sense it) they don't get any further. The married guys we've talked with seem more patient and more willing to let this happen on our schedule.

This is not to say that we don't see some draw backs to married guys. One is the obvious, what if he is caught. But I think weeding through some of these to understand that perhaps she knows on some level and has come to accept it, that the guy would own up to it and not include us in his drama and learning more about the situation he is in and even empathisizing on some level, has made us comfortable with this.

The other draw back is that he isn't always as free. This is where the single guys, well Jon this far, has an advantage. He has no one to worry about scheduling around and having fun with an attached guy has posed a small issue thus far. Nothing too dramatic with the proper planning and advanced notice. In fact, if you've read our blog for some time (and that number seems to be dropping daily...LOL) you will see that we actually began talking with him over six months ago. Part of the reason we took so long is to get over our own concerns but the other part was ensuring that he had some free time to play.

Anyway, he is a great guy. I was more drawn to Jon having some fun with us for some time but as time went on, this guy seemed to really get it. To be honest, I am not sure that he wouldn't have been better for the first one (Jon, if you are reading this, that's not to say you aren't a great guy and weren't a great first for us!) As I said, he just seems to get it better.

Other than that what have we been up to? Well, we went to Vegas, visited a strip club, had some fun with a stripper after she was done for the night (just some playful fun at another club between Rach and her really) and had a great time with just the two of us. We've also met a couple new guys for drinks. No play with them yet but perhaps something in the works with one shortly. Oh, and yes, they are both married as well.