I was just browsing around a bit on a few of our friends' blogs today and found an interesting little test. I decided to answer the questions and see what my Erotic Personality was. After taking it, I found out, I am a The Student. This surprised me a bit as I would rather do than study....lol. Then I saw the explanation and all made sense.
It said, "You see the sexual realm as one big Petri dish with you as the scientist. Learning is as exciting as doing and very little is out of your scope of investigation." The full description was actually, "The Student doesn’t care a whit about sexual boundaries or conventions. New, unexplored, and even unusual sexual experiences motivate this erotic type. Learning is just as exciting as doing, so even research involving no involvement of the flesh can be as arousing as sex itself. The Student possesses an insatiable curiosity about all things sexual and appreciates others who share that curiosity - although they don’t always need that quality in a mate. The Student is compelled to experiment with new sexual pastimes out of a sincere desire to experience whatever pleasure they offer. The Student will often delve very deep into a sexual topic or activity to ensure the experience is complete."
I guess that is true as of late. I've become much more investigative with our two encounters with Jon and our visit recently to an adult club. I emailed And at work and told him about the test. To anyone that has read our blog for some time, it probably comes as no surprise that his results came back as "The Cuckhold". It did kinda upset him a bit when he took the test. He tried it a second time and it came back with the same answer.
I asked him to send me the description which said, "You adore your significant other so much, it thrills you to think of them giving and getting pleasure from people in addition to yourself. You like knowing you might not be enough to give them everything they need."
He wasn't really playing along, instead pouting about the label. So, I went on and looked at the rest of the description, "The Cuckold is turned on by seeing, imagining, or hearing about their lover with somebody else. Even if they seem angry about a certain infidelity, they are actually excited by the notion of their lover in the arms of another. Sometimes this excitement comes from a need for humiliation. Sometimes, it’s just a simple desire to show off and share their prized mate with others. Cuckolds get hot when they realize they may not be enough to satisfy the seemingly insatiable sexual needs of their lovers and they may even play a role in finding additional lovers for them to ensure that they get enough sex. They don’t get sexually jealous but they do get emotionally attached."
After I read that, I told him it shouldn't upset him. All that was true except the humiliation part. I think he was hoping he'd be identified as The Watcher or the Student. He clearly seems himself as a Student of sex...lol.
Anyway, if you'd like to take the test, it is at Sage Vivant Journey. Tell us what your erotic personality type is once you've completed the test. If I can get And to stop working tonight, I'll have him add a poll to the right so we can track the results. It would be very interesting to see what 'label' our readers have! LOL.
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Over the swing club hangover...finally
Ok, so Saturday was a big blur. It was a relatively nice day, we had so many things to do and I was feeling awful! You know that feeling when you swear you'll never drink that much again? Why is it that we always seem to forget that after a relatively short period of time. It's time I realize, I am not the 23 year old party girl anymore. I can't go out drinking all night and feel fine the next day like I once could. My body is betraying me in my thirties because I simply can not drink more than a glass or two of wine anymore! Perhaps its the relatively daily quiet life we lead and the lack of drinking more than once or twice a month that makes me that much more of a terrible recoverer from more drinks than I care to remember. Or perhaps it is simply that I am getting old...lol. Whatever it is, I am not going to do that again....yea, right! lol
Anyway, Sunday was a relatively quite day. We had a few things to get done around the house, went to a nice afternoon dinner as a family, did some shopping and had a quiet night of television, baths and reading at home. It was nice as I felt like I was still recovering from Friday night's binge. Hydrating all day, I couldn't seem to get caught up on my fluids and I kept fluctuating between being hot and being cold. I was thirsty, tired and hungry all day! By Monday, I was in much, much better condition.
The quiet of Sunday evening and the fact that I was mostly recovered allowed And and me to reflect a bit on Friday night. Before you think we are going a new direction, let me put that thought to rest. We are not becoming swingers, we have no interest in the group thing at this time and we are still utterly monogamous - most of the time. Our two nights inviting the same man into our sexual relations is something that still excites both of us beyond belief and I don't see us going outside of that realm anytime soon. Friday was quite a shock, highly erotic, interesting, enlightening, entertaining and something we might repeat at some point should the thought strike us both. But I don't think either of us saw it as a new "expansion" on our sexual appetite besides the mere curiousity, erotic voyearistic fun and something that was definitely different for us. It was fun and it was good in that way. But it is not a lifestyle change that I think either of us has in mind for ourselves.
See, in the end, we are still a married couple, living a fairly normal suburban lifestyle. I mean, we have two kids for god's sake. And has a professional job that keeps him extremely busy. I still like being a stay at home, volunteering-at-the-school, pick-the-girls-up-each-day, always-around mom. We can't spend countless hours going out to adult clubs partying like rock stars. We don't have that freedom, time and, quite frankly, that desire to change our everyday lives that much. What we do have is am extremely close one-on-one relationship, a good sex life and the occasional interest in spicing things up from time to time. That might include inviting another man as we've now come to realize, or perhaps...I say perhaps, another woman. That is still not somewhere I want to go but I also don't close doors completely when it comes to creatively augmenting our relationship. Could we have sex with another couple, could we go to adult club, could we have sex with a group of people, could we invite multiple men in? Sure. Will we? Probably not. It's just not something that we have the desire for at this point in our lives. In the end, we are still, primarily, a primary couple. We love each other. We are comfortable with where we are in life and we are comfortable in the invitation we've extended to Jon on two occasions. I am sure we will have more adventures, for sure. But will they be the swinging lifestyle ones? Uhm, I just don't see it right now.
Speaking of Jon, we did have an interesting text exchange last night. I told him about our night out and he was really fascinated. I think he didn't think I had that in me - to go to a club and watch while women gave men blow jobs, had incredibly sexy public sex with people other than their partner. He seemed shocked and was really interested in how I felt about all of it. I told him it was quite fun but not something that I was really into THAT much. He didn't seem disappointed in that at all. In fact, I dare think that he felt relieved that I didn't find it too intriguing. Almost like there was a feeling that he might be old hat and that I'd moved on to more adventurous activities. Almost a sense of relief that he was delivering to me in his words. Like, whew, I still have a chance to be with her again...lol.
Jon is a sexy guy, a kind gentleman, thoughtful and selfless. In fact, I've often wondered why he hasn't simply found himself a hottie and why he has any interest in having sex with a married woman while her non-jealous, relaxed hunk of a husband is right there. I mean, he knows there is no chance for anything more than this. That has been clear from the start and there has never been any confusion there. He also knows that he will not find himself alone with me. He knows that And will be there watching or participating. Why not just find a single woman that is interested in sex more often, can be seen with him at any time and is available? Something I've thought about from time to time.
I mean, why guys, besides the obvious no strings attached physical element would you have an interest in being on the outside looking in? Maybe it's just one of those differences between the sexes that I'll never understand and, really, I really don't care to question this too much. In fact, when I wonder this, I come to the conclusion that I, ultimately, don't really care why at all. It is great for And and me that we have someone that is willing to make himself available for such fun. It is the spice we have found and it is fulfilling to us. Presumably, it is fulfilling to Jon on some level too. I don't need to analyze it any deeper than that but still, I do wonder why...lol.
Anyway, Sunday was a relatively quite day. We had a few things to get done around the house, went to a nice afternoon dinner as a family, did some shopping and had a quiet night of television, baths and reading at home. It was nice as I felt like I was still recovering from Friday night's binge. Hydrating all day, I couldn't seem to get caught up on my fluids and I kept fluctuating between being hot and being cold. I was thirsty, tired and hungry all day! By Monday, I was in much, much better condition.
The quiet of Sunday evening and the fact that I was mostly recovered allowed And and me to reflect a bit on Friday night. Before you think we are going a new direction, let me put that thought to rest. We are not becoming swingers, we have no interest in the group thing at this time and we are still utterly monogamous - most of the time. Our two nights inviting the same man into our sexual relations is something that still excites both of us beyond belief and I don't see us going outside of that realm anytime soon. Friday was quite a shock, highly erotic, interesting, enlightening, entertaining and something we might repeat at some point should the thought strike us both. But I don't think either of us saw it as a new "expansion" on our sexual appetite besides the mere curiousity, erotic voyearistic fun and something that was definitely different for us. It was fun and it was good in that way. But it is not a lifestyle change that I think either of us has in mind for ourselves.
See, in the end, we are still a married couple, living a fairly normal suburban lifestyle. I mean, we have two kids for god's sake. And has a professional job that keeps him extremely busy. I still like being a stay at home, volunteering-at-the-school, pick-the-girls-up-each-day, always-around mom. We can't spend countless hours going out to adult clubs partying like rock stars. We don't have that freedom, time and, quite frankly, that desire to change our everyday lives that much. What we do have is am extremely close one-on-one relationship, a good sex life and the occasional interest in spicing things up from time to time. That might include inviting another man as we've now come to realize, or perhaps...I say perhaps, another woman. That is still not somewhere I want to go but I also don't close doors completely when it comes to creatively augmenting our relationship. Could we have sex with another couple, could we go to adult club, could we have sex with a group of people, could we invite multiple men in? Sure. Will we? Probably not. It's just not something that we have the desire for at this point in our lives. In the end, we are still, primarily, a primary couple. We love each other. We are comfortable with where we are in life and we are comfortable in the invitation we've extended to Jon on two occasions. I am sure we will have more adventures, for sure. But will they be the swinging lifestyle ones? Uhm, I just don't see it right now.
Speaking of Jon, we did have an interesting text exchange last night. I told him about our night out and he was really fascinated. I think he didn't think I had that in me - to go to a club and watch while women gave men blow jobs, had incredibly sexy public sex with people other than their partner. He seemed shocked and was really interested in how I felt about all of it. I told him it was quite fun but not something that I was really into THAT much. He didn't seem disappointed in that at all. In fact, I dare think that he felt relieved that I didn't find it too intriguing. Almost like there was a feeling that he might be old hat and that I'd moved on to more adventurous activities. Almost a sense of relief that he was delivering to me in his words. Like, whew, I still have a chance to be with her again...lol.
Jon is a sexy guy, a kind gentleman, thoughtful and selfless. In fact, I've often wondered why he hasn't simply found himself a hottie and why he has any interest in having sex with a married woman while her non-jealous, relaxed hunk of a husband is right there. I mean, he knows there is no chance for anything more than this. That has been clear from the start and there has never been any confusion there. He also knows that he will not find himself alone with me. He knows that And will be there watching or participating. Why not just find a single woman that is interested in sex more often, can be seen with him at any time and is available? Something I've thought about from time to time.
I mean, why guys, besides the obvious no strings attached physical element would you have an interest in being on the outside looking in? Maybe it's just one of those differences between the sexes that I'll never understand and, really, I really don't care to question this too much. In fact, when I wonder this, I come to the conclusion that I, ultimately, don't really care why at all. It is great for And and me that we have someone that is willing to make himself available for such fun. It is the spice we have found and it is fulfilling to us. Presumably, it is fulfilling to Jon on some level too. I don't need to analyze it any deeper than that but still, I do wonder why...lol.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
OMG, an amazing night
I don't usually post this late...and I have had a bit to drink tonight so please excuse if my grammar or spelling is bad but I just had to write and tell you about an amazing night.
And surprised me by arranging a babysitter for the girls telling me we are going out for the night. We went down to my fav Sushi place and had a wonderful meal. After we finished, he asked me if I was ready to go home. Having had some drinks at dinner, I asked him if we HAD to go home yet. He said, no, that he was actually hoping that I was interested in trying something new.
Before we left, we walked over to the liquor store at a nearby shopping area and And bought a bottle of Vodka (Grey Goose, his favorite) and a couple small bottles of Seven. I thought we were going to drink them on the way over but he hadn't bought any soda for me. Hmm...Well, he drove us to an area of town that I was quite familiar with and had a few clubs. I thought perhaps we were headed into a bar we'd been to in the past that had retro late 80's and early 90's music but he had parked more than a few blocks away. I was wondering why we had parked so far...little did I know.
We ended up walking thru this alley and then around to a side door. The name of the club wasn't apparent to me and we walked in and there was typical club music playing. We walked up and were told that the cover was $120 or something like that. I was looking at And like, we should turn around now. It looked nice but definitely not something I was ready to spend that much on. He then was asked to fill out a small card. Okay, now this is weird. Still clueless, we walked in, were greeted at a coat check and he gave them a $20 tip to watch our jackets (really just my cover sweater and And's jacket...lol).
When we walked in, I noticed that And was holding the liquor and that he had a couple of sticky note pad types that had numbers on them. He put them on the bottles, walked up and ordered us drinks. There were a few couples dancing on the floor....gorgeous couples. We received our drinks and sat down at a booth not far from the floor. We kissed a bit, people watched and sat and talked. And asked me if I'd like to look around. There were some really cool lighting effects and some areas of the club that were quite dark as we walked. We walked through a hallway and into a larger room that was all black. What I saw next completely caught me off guard. Okay, I know, I am not real fast on catching on, you are probably thinking...we were in an "adult" club!!
There were some very sexy looking couples sitting at some booths, a large bed that was mostly vacant (except for a couple uninteresting looking couples and women) but what immediately caught my eye were these cabanas. They looked like treasures to Roman Goddesses! What really stunned my eyes was when I looked over and there was a mostly naked woman giving a blowjob, quite aggressively, to a rather well endowed man. There were people standing around with drinks in hand...some with their SO's and others alone. When I say mostly others I want to highlight, mostly single women. I looked at And who just smiled and asked me if everything was okay. I must admit, there was a twinge of wetness and a bit of rapid heartbeat at the sight!
We walked back further to a sunken jacuzzi with a few couples naked, talking, drinking and holding each other close. When we turned the corner there was the most beautiful lighted area...those wall sconces with purples, pinks and illuminous whites...glass...mirrors...darkness, the feint sounds of moving water somewhere...it was all so sureal...but exciting too.
We saw what can only be described as a mini orgy going on in the middle of a bunch of padded walls, bed pulled together and bodies...hot bodies. There was one woman, quite beautiful with a bit of a larger, full butt and great breasts...breasts I wish I had...perky, lovely, heavy...having her way with a few men. She was obviously getting a good fuck, but she was also reaching with a hand to stroke a guy while giving a third a tremendously talented blowjob. I do not exagerate when I say that the guy was big but she was doing a fabulous, sexy, intriguing job at taking about all of it in. How she did not gag and throw up right there still has me thinking. How do women do that, remove their tonsils? LOL
So we watched for a bit and I remember And's hands on me. We kissed, made out and had a bit of voyearistic fun. We also were a bit exhibitionists ourselves as he touched me and I him. We didn't get too far before we noticed a set of eyes on us from a sorta frumpy looking couple. Not that they were ugly but they definitely were interested in watching and we weren't interested in having them watch. And must have sensed, or felt, the same feelings I had as he asked if I wanted to go back to the dance floor area. I did. And we did. We danced a bit, people watched some more before I realized that we have an early morning and made that comment to And. He told me yea, we should probably get going and we headed out shortly after. We were there maybe two hours in total and I can tell you, it was the most weird and, at the same time, incredibly sexy two hours I can remember for a while. While we didn't have sex there, we saw others doing so and it was quite the turn on. So much that while And took our babysitter home, I prepared our room and attacked him when he came back. We just finished with the most exciting, wet, dirty, hot, heart and body pounding sex we've had in some time.
Normally, I'd be right next to him asleep. But my heart is racing so hard and my body is still shivering and excited about what I've seen tonight, I couldn't sleep and decided to get on and write this. I haven't felt like writing too much lately but tonight, I definitely have to tell someone about this! And, I am sure will read all of this rambling tomorrow and smile. One thing I did think about. We left those bottles of liquor at the club (which I still don't know the name of) and it had me thinking....those numbers are our numbers on the bottles now, right? So, they will be there when...and I do mean when...we return, right? LOL
And surprised me by arranging a babysitter for the girls telling me we are going out for the night. We went down to my fav Sushi place and had a wonderful meal. After we finished, he asked me if I was ready to go home. Having had some drinks at dinner, I asked him if we HAD to go home yet. He said, no, that he was actually hoping that I was interested in trying something new.
Before we left, we walked over to the liquor store at a nearby shopping area and And bought a bottle of Vodka (Grey Goose, his favorite) and a couple small bottles of Seven. I thought we were going to drink them on the way over but he hadn't bought any soda for me. Hmm...Well, he drove us to an area of town that I was quite familiar with and had a few clubs. I thought perhaps we were headed into a bar we'd been to in the past that had retro late 80's and early 90's music but he had parked more than a few blocks away. I was wondering why we had parked so far...little did I know.
We ended up walking thru this alley and then around to a side door. The name of the club wasn't apparent to me and we walked in and there was typical club music playing. We walked up and were told that the cover was $120 or something like that. I was looking at And like, we should turn around now. It looked nice but definitely not something I was ready to spend that much on. He then was asked to fill out a small card. Okay, now this is weird. Still clueless, we walked in, were greeted at a coat check and he gave them a $20 tip to watch our jackets (really just my cover sweater and And's jacket...lol).
When we walked in, I noticed that And was holding the liquor and that he had a couple of sticky note pad types that had numbers on them. He put them on the bottles, walked up and ordered us drinks. There were a few couples dancing on the floor....gorgeous couples. We received our drinks and sat down at a booth not far from the floor. We kissed a bit, people watched and sat and talked. And asked me if I'd like to look around. There were some really cool lighting effects and some areas of the club that were quite dark as we walked. We walked through a hallway and into a larger room that was all black. What I saw next completely caught me off guard. Okay, I know, I am not real fast on catching on, you are probably thinking...we were in an "adult" club!!
There were some very sexy looking couples sitting at some booths, a large bed that was mostly vacant (except for a couple uninteresting looking couples and women) but what immediately caught my eye were these cabanas. They looked like treasures to Roman Goddesses! What really stunned my eyes was when I looked over and there was a mostly naked woman giving a blowjob, quite aggressively, to a rather well endowed man. There were people standing around with drinks in hand...some with their SO's and others alone. When I say mostly others I want to highlight, mostly single women. I looked at And who just smiled and asked me if everything was okay. I must admit, there was a twinge of wetness and a bit of rapid heartbeat at the sight!
We walked back further to a sunken jacuzzi with a few couples naked, talking, drinking and holding each other close. When we turned the corner there was the most beautiful lighted area...those wall sconces with purples, pinks and illuminous whites...glass...mirrors...darkness, the feint sounds of moving water somewhere...it was all so sureal...but exciting too.
We saw what can only be described as a mini orgy going on in the middle of a bunch of padded walls, bed pulled together and bodies...hot bodies. There was one woman, quite beautiful with a bit of a larger, full butt and great breasts...breasts I wish I had...perky, lovely, heavy...having her way with a few men. She was obviously getting a good fuck, but she was also reaching with a hand to stroke a guy while giving a third a tremendously talented blowjob. I do not exagerate when I say that the guy was big but she was doing a fabulous, sexy, intriguing job at taking about all of it in. How she did not gag and throw up right there still has me thinking. How do women do that, remove their tonsils? LOL
So we watched for a bit and I remember And's hands on me. We kissed, made out and had a bit of voyearistic fun. We also were a bit exhibitionists ourselves as he touched me and I him. We didn't get too far before we noticed a set of eyes on us from a sorta frumpy looking couple. Not that they were ugly but they definitely were interested in watching and we weren't interested in having them watch. And must have sensed, or felt, the same feelings I had as he asked if I wanted to go back to the dance floor area. I did. And we did. We danced a bit, people watched some more before I realized that we have an early morning and made that comment to And. He told me yea, we should probably get going and we headed out shortly after. We were there maybe two hours in total and I can tell you, it was the most weird and, at the same time, incredibly sexy two hours I can remember for a while. While we didn't have sex there, we saw others doing so and it was quite the turn on. So much that while And took our babysitter home, I prepared our room and attacked him when he came back. We just finished with the most exciting, wet, dirty, hot, heart and body pounding sex we've had in some time.
Normally, I'd be right next to him asleep. But my heart is racing so hard and my body is still shivering and excited about what I've seen tonight, I couldn't sleep and decided to get on and write this. I haven't felt like writing too much lately but tonight, I definitely have to tell someone about this! And, I am sure will read all of this rambling tomorrow and smile. One thing I did think about. We left those bottles of liquor at the club (which I still don't know the name of) and it had me thinking....those numbers are our numbers on the bottles now, right? So, they will be there when...and I do mean when...we return, right? LOL
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Happy Lover's Day
I prefer to call it that over Valentine's Day. Lover's Day is a more inclusive term that brings in not only those that you are in a primarily romantic relationship with but also for those in your life that you Love or love to have fun in a non-romantic way.
So today, I say to my true love, And:
Happy Lover's Day, Baby. You are most definitely the love of my life, the reason for my desire to be with one man forever and my greatest lover - in all ways. You have taught me so much about the depth of love. More than I could have ever envisioned in my life. One that I know will live on forever. You have brought me so many gifts this past year. The gift of freedom, confidence, security and truth.
To my girls, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day, my sweet daughters. May you live a life full of love, full of pleasure and full of happiness. You mean the world to me and I will always love you no matter what difficulties or challenges life and love bring you.
To Jon:
Happy Lovers' Day, sexy. You have brought me great pleasure, a true friendship and the hope of many more exciting days in the future. You are a truly wonderful gentleman, funny person and someone I hope will share adventures with me and And for some time.
To Lovers yet unknown, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day. May we find each other and experience the many wonderful adventures life provides. May you experience passion in life, in love, in sexual experiences. May you always think of the others you are with before yourself and may you, in doing so, experience the wonderful climax of the ultimate expression of being alive. May you challenge the conventions of our society and its socially accepted norms and in so doing learn new things about yourselves.
And finally, to all those couples thinking about expanding their love life to include another man, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day. May you communicate with each other about your desires, fantasies, hopes and dreams. May you find pleasure in each other and in the experiences that bring two people so close to each other. May you find the ability to share with each other openly what you fear to say. May you find great relief in their understanding of you and may you find acceptance in your love. May you successfully seek out those thought and desires and each other's desire to pleasure you. May you find a true gentleman, one that understands and respects your relationship and, in so doing, may you find a greater depth of love between all.
So today, I say to my true love, And:
Happy Lover's Day, Baby. You are most definitely the love of my life, the reason for my desire to be with one man forever and my greatest lover - in all ways. You have taught me so much about the depth of love. More than I could have ever envisioned in my life. One that I know will live on forever. You have brought me so many gifts this past year. The gift of freedom, confidence, security and truth.
To my girls, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day, my sweet daughters. May you live a life full of love, full of pleasure and full of happiness. You mean the world to me and I will always love you no matter what difficulties or challenges life and love bring you.
To Jon:
Happy Lovers' Day, sexy. You have brought me great pleasure, a true friendship and the hope of many more exciting days in the future. You are a truly wonderful gentleman, funny person and someone I hope will share adventures with me and And for some time.
To Lovers yet unknown, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day. May we find each other and experience the many wonderful adventures life provides. May you experience passion in life, in love, in sexual experiences. May you always think of the others you are with before yourself and may you, in doing so, experience the wonderful climax of the ultimate expression of being alive. May you challenge the conventions of our society and its socially accepted norms and in so doing learn new things about yourselves.
And finally, to all those couples thinking about expanding their love life to include another man, I say:
Happy Lovers' Day. May you communicate with each other about your desires, fantasies, hopes and dreams. May you find pleasure in each other and in the experiences that bring two people so close to each other. May you find the ability to share with each other openly what you fear to say. May you find great relief in their understanding of you and may you find acceptance in your love. May you successfully seek out those thought and desires and each other's desire to pleasure you. May you find a true gentleman, one that understands and respects your relationship and, in so doing, may you find a greater depth of love between all.
Thursday, February 07, 2008
Reflecting on our second encounter with Jon
I know it's been three weeks now since our evening with Jon. To be honest, I simply haven't felt much like writing in...oh the past month or more. Sorry to admit it, but sometimes I just get to feeling this way. I feel some pressure to write 'properly' as I know And places importance on every word we "publish". So, when I sit down thinking, okay, today I am going to update the blog and give the world some insight into our personal relationships, I just sometimes go "uhgh". I've been in an uhgh mood for some time. Sorry.
We did have a tremendously fun and exciting evening with Jon. It was more comfortable from the start on that night. It felt like we already knew what to expect from each other and I can tell you there was much less tension, more joking, more comfortable-ness. We had a great dinner and it felt like we were old friends getting together. I am sure that there has been more conversation between Jon and I between our evenings together but when he and And get together, there is a natural 'guy' connection that just occurs. It's nice, really. It takes the pressure off me to come up with something interesting to say when they can just talk.
The details of our evening are much the same as our first experience. I gave Jon a tremendously talented (if I do say so myself) blow job and he too took his time displaying his great oral skills. This time, though, there was more active participation on And's part. At one point, Jon was down making my kitty tingle while And's hands were on my breasts, kissing my neck from behind. Later, Jon was behind me and And in front, his beautiful manhood fully erect in my hands. Funny, I remember thinking that it is hard to concentrate on giving him a hand job while I am feeling Jon's cock slide in and out of me. That, coupled with the natural motions of doggie-style sex (one of my favorite positions) make it even harder to focus. I can multi-task with the best of them when it comes to helping with homework, preparing dinner and having a phone conversation with a friend but that doesn't necessarily transfer over to having two men at my disposal at the same time....lol.
Since then, we've taken it easy. We haven't even really talked to Jon that much. A text message here, an email there. In fact, I don't think I've talked to him on the phone more than three times since and I know And hasn't had any phone conversations with him. It is just comfortable now knowing that if we want to see him again, we can.
One thing And and I have been discussing is whether we want to expand our encounters into having multiple men. We differ a bit. Perhaps it is the woman in me that wants to just keep things simple and not involve anyone else at the moment. And, always the challenger, is thinking we should try to have an experience with someone else other than Jon. I am not completely against it. I think it would be fun to, well, compare - I guess is the only word I can think of right now. I want to keep things on the light side with these other encounters and not have too much depth. I could definitely see how that could happen with Jon, in some ways. So, when we talk about it, I am not opposed to the idea simply because I don't want it to get too intense, comfortable, deep or whatever, with one person. Naturally, a relationship has built between Jon and me. But he is a pretty casual kinda guy about relationships which makes things easier for all of us. I think this is a key to everyone's understanding that nothing interferes with our primary relationship.
I do want to address some of the conversations that we've had about all of this. Something one of our comments pointed out to me (and particularly deep thinker And...lol). We haven't really expanded on that much here. There are a couple reasons. One is that was some time ago and since, I've grown more comfortable in knowing more about where we are and where this fits into our lives. The other reason is that I am not good at describing the depth of our conversations. Something perhaps my sexy husband can describe better. The final reason is related to what I opened this with today. Sometimes, I just don't want to...lol. While I've grown more comfortable sharing our thoughts and our lives here, sometimes, there are some things I just want to keep between me and And. I know you can all appreciate that.
We did have a tremendously fun and exciting evening with Jon. It was more comfortable from the start on that night. It felt like we already knew what to expect from each other and I can tell you there was much less tension, more joking, more comfortable-ness. We had a great dinner and it felt like we were old friends getting together. I am sure that there has been more conversation between Jon and I between our evenings together but when he and And get together, there is a natural 'guy' connection that just occurs. It's nice, really. It takes the pressure off me to come up with something interesting to say when they can just talk.
The details of our evening are much the same as our first experience. I gave Jon a tremendously talented (if I do say so myself) blow job and he too took his time displaying his great oral skills. This time, though, there was more active participation on And's part. At one point, Jon was down making my kitty tingle while And's hands were on my breasts, kissing my neck from behind. Later, Jon was behind me and And in front, his beautiful manhood fully erect in my hands. Funny, I remember thinking that it is hard to concentrate on giving him a hand job while I am feeling Jon's cock slide in and out of me. That, coupled with the natural motions of doggie-style sex (one of my favorite positions) make it even harder to focus. I can multi-task with the best of them when it comes to helping with homework, preparing dinner and having a phone conversation with a friend but that doesn't necessarily transfer over to having two men at my disposal at the same time....lol.
Since then, we've taken it easy. We haven't even really talked to Jon that much. A text message here, an email there. In fact, I don't think I've talked to him on the phone more than three times since and I know And hasn't had any phone conversations with him. It is just comfortable now knowing that if we want to see him again, we can.
One thing And and I have been discussing is whether we want to expand our encounters into having multiple men. We differ a bit. Perhaps it is the woman in me that wants to just keep things simple and not involve anyone else at the moment. And, always the challenger, is thinking we should try to have an experience with someone else other than Jon. I am not completely against it. I think it would be fun to, well, compare - I guess is the only word I can think of right now. I want to keep things on the light side with these other encounters and not have too much depth. I could definitely see how that could happen with Jon, in some ways. So, when we talk about it, I am not opposed to the idea simply because I don't want it to get too intense, comfortable, deep or whatever, with one person. Naturally, a relationship has built between Jon and me. But he is a pretty casual kinda guy about relationships which makes things easier for all of us. I think this is a key to everyone's understanding that nothing interferes with our primary relationship.
I do want to address some of the conversations that we've had about all of this. Something one of our comments pointed out to me (and particularly deep thinker And...lol). We haven't really expanded on that much here. There are a couple reasons. One is that was some time ago and since, I've grown more comfortable in knowing more about where we are and where this fits into our lives. The other reason is that I am not good at describing the depth of our conversations. Something perhaps my sexy husband can describe better. The final reason is related to what I opened this with today. Sometimes, I just don't want to...lol. While I've grown more comfortable sharing our thoughts and our lives here, sometimes, there are some things I just want to keep between me and And. I know you can all appreciate that.
Monday, February 04, 2008
A hotwife first time confession from one of our readers
While you wait for us to come back from our long vacation (I know, we've been extremely bad at posting recently) we thought we'd post an email (with the permission of the couple in question, mind you) about a woman's perspective of her husband's hotwife fantasy. While you don't have to believe it, we do. We know the couple is real!
I was so scared and nervous. G was so excited! After years of telling him that I was content with our sex life, that he was the only man for me and that there was no f*^$ing way I was going to do a threesome, I had changed my mind. And I was about to live with the consequences.
You see, my ex-husband had always wanted to bring another woman into the mix and I thought he was being nasty. I already knew that he wasn't happy with me - he had cheated so many times. So when G started talking about these fantasies, I was scared. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop.
But this was different. He wanted to watch me with another GUY. Somehow, that scared me even more! I just knew in my heart that if I enjoyed it, he would hate me. If I enjoyed it too much, he'd think I was nothing but a whore. And if I didn't like it, he'd be disappointed. I was gonna be screwed no matter what and not in a good way.
But he patiently and persistently brought it up, again and again, slowly wearing down my resistance. He would talk about it during sex, making it part of our pillow talk. He could get me excited with the idea of it easily, but after the orgasm, I would go back to being 'reasonable'. Content with our 'vanilla' life.
Then I made a decision. I knew he had been on this site for months (Adult FriendFinder). So I asked for the web address and the password. Surprised the hell out of him! He warned me that 'our' profile was kinda 'rough' because he wrote it from his point of view. He also mentioned that he had posted a couple of pictures. He almost died for that! But I said nothing. His birthday was coming up and I had decided that if I was going to do this - ONCE - that it would be a good present.
When I told him, he just about came in his pants thinking about it. He then set about finding the perfect first guy. He found Craig.
Craig was 12 years my junior. Experienced with swinging and good looking. G set up the meet and to make it even better, he got a separate room for us so that I had a place to go if necessary.
We drove the hour to the hotel with me practically having a stroke the whole way. I was excited, nervous, unsure and hornier than I could have ever believed. Ever since my decision, we had been having some of the best sex of our 13 year marriage.
We met Craig in the bar, and ordered a bite to eat - to go along with my 2 double 7/7's. He was so cute, personable, nice and sexy. He put me at ease with his flirting and teasing and just by being relaxed.
We went to the room and without getting too graphic (I know, unusual for me!..) we had some awesome sex. I experienced many firsts that night: a threesome, a stranger (ok, not a total first - but long enough that I had forgotten what it was like), being spanked (!), and being in a submissive role. Both of them took turns with all three holes and it was wonderful! By the time they had each come twice, and I had lost count of my orgasms, I was sore, exhausted and completely satisfied.
More importantly to me, so was G. He was ecstatic. This was a fantasy come true and he knew that I had enjoyed it just as much as he did. He knew by the look on my face, when we finally took our leave and went to our own room, that I was hooked.
I had warned him that if he woke that monster inside me, he would have to keep her fed. So far, he has done a wonderful job of giving me many more firsts. But this First was the catalyst. And for this, I am very thankful.
Love you, Babe!
Wow....so hot and all so strikingly true to the emotions I felt the first time...and the second!
I was so scared and nervous. G was so excited! After years of telling him that I was content with our sex life, that he was the only man for me and that there was no f*^$ing way I was going to do a threesome, I had changed my mind. And I was about to live with the consequences.
You see, my ex-husband had always wanted to bring another woman into the mix and I thought he was being nasty. I already knew that he wasn't happy with me - he had cheated so many times. So when G started talking about these fantasies, I was scared. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop.
But this was different. He wanted to watch me with another GUY. Somehow, that scared me even more! I just knew in my heart that if I enjoyed it, he would hate me. If I enjoyed it too much, he'd think I was nothing but a whore. And if I didn't like it, he'd be disappointed. I was gonna be screwed no matter what and not in a good way.
But he patiently and persistently brought it up, again and again, slowly wearing down my resistance. He would talk about it during sex, making it part of our pillow talk. He could get me excited with the idea of it easily, but after the orgasm, I would go back to being 'reasonable'. Content with our 'vanilla' life.
Then I made a decision. I knew he had been on this site for months (Adult FriendFinder). So I asked for the web address and the password. Surprised the hell out of him! He warned me that 'our' profile was kinda 'rough' because he wrote it from his point of view. He also mentioned that he had posted a couple of pictures. He almost died for that! But I said nothing. His birthday was coming up and I had decided that if I was going to do this - ONCE - that it would be a good present.
When I told him, he just about came in his pants thinking about it. He then set about finding the perfect first guy. He found Craig.
Craig was 12 years my junior. Experienced with swinging and good looking. G set up the meet and to make it even better, he got a separate room for us so that I had a place to go if necessary.
We drove the hour to the hotel with me practically having a stroke the whole way. I was excited, nervous, unsure and hornier than I could have ever believed. Ever since my decision, we had been having some of the best sex of our 13 year marriage.
We met Craig in the bar, and ordered a bite to eat - to go along with my 2 double 7/7's. He was so cute, personable, nice and sexy. He put me at ease with his flirting and teasing and just by being relaxed.
We went to the room and without getting too graphic (I know, unusual for me!..) we had some awesome sex. I experienced many firsts that night: a threesome, a stranger (ok, not a total first - but long enough that I had forgotten what it was like), being spanked (!), and being in a submissive role. Both of them took turns with all three holes and it was wonderful! By the time they had each come twice, and I had lost count of my orgasms, I was sore, exhausted and completely satisfied.
More importantly to me, so was G. He was ecstatic. This was a fantasy come true and he knew that I had enjoyed it just as much as he did. He knew by the look on my face, when we finally took our leave and went to our own room, that I was hooked.
I had warned him that if he woke that monster inside me, he would have to keep her fed. So far, he has done a wonderful job of giving me many more firsts. But this First was the catalyst. And for this, I am very thankful.
Love you, Babe!
Wow....so hot and all so strikingly true to the emotions I felt the first time...and the second!
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